Remember how in The Wizard Of Oz, the Scarecrow wishes he had brains, the tin man longs for a heart, and the cowardly lion seeks courage? On their long journey to the Emerald City, Dorothy, Toto and their friends face many trials, but they overcome them all, often thanks to the very qualities they thought they lacked: the Scarecrow’s good sense, the Tin Woodman’s kindness, and the bravery of the Cowardly Lion.
What are the human qualities you feel you’d benefit from having more of in your life? Would you like to be braver, more courageous, more of a showman, more of a self-promoter? Would it benefit you to be a tougher negotiator or a shrewder judge of character?
Make a list of people who inspire you. Think of people who have different characteristics from your own. You could go to literature or history books for inspiration. How about the movies? Perhaps you’ve got a best friend who has qualities you wish you had? How about a family member who has the kind of character you aspire to.
Say, for example, you feel you lack the gift of self promotion. You could do worse than channelling P.T.Barnum of circus fame. Next time you’re holding back from posting your success on social media, ask yourself “What would Barnum do?” I promise you’ll know the answer.
Likewise, if you’re struggling with grace on a public stage, what better role model than Michelle Obama. Channel her. Ask yourself, “how would Michele hold herself in this situation?”
This simple trick of assembling crew members or team mates whose advice you can easily access may well end up with you discovering that you already possess the very qualities you thought you lacked.
Remy Blumenfeld is a creative life coach living in London. He empowers leaders to play the game of life with purpose, grace and ease. Before training as coach, he launched a TV Production company which created dozens of ground breaking, TV shows.