Of course, if you’re a parent, trying to balance raising small children with excelling professionally, you may rightly feel that the problem does not lie within you. However, many of us have come to equate free-time with unpaid time, which is surely worth less (by definition) than time for which one is being paid. Hence the powerful idea that free time is worth less. Powerful, because, if we believe something is worth less (even if we only believe this on a subconscious level) we tend not to prioritize it.
One thing is certain: If you don’t prioritize having free time, if you don’t go out of your way to claim it, you simply won’t have any. That’s how it works. There will always be claims on your time -both from those who are paying for it and from those who are delighted that it’s free to them. So unless you start prizing the free time you have for yourself more highly than paid time, you will find yourself without a free moment for yourself.
I’ve long been puzzled by how, if someone has mismanaged their finances, is overdrawn and has no cash or no savings, society judges them to be a failure. Yet, if someone has so mismanaged their time that they have no time for themselves, we deem their busyness to mean they’re a success.
Remy Blumenfeld is a creative life coach living in London. He empowers leaders to play the game of life with purpose, grace and ease. Before training as coach, he launched a TV Production company which created dozens of ground breaking, TV shows.