To Succeed, It helps To Fail
As with vulnerability, which most of us see as strength when it's shown by others but mistake for weakness when it surfaces in ourselves, owning your failure makes you appear stronger.
The Power Of Nothingness
Throughout history great innovations, new ways of thinking, have come, not to people who sat with their brows furrowed in a brainstorm, but to people out walking (Tesla) in the shower (Elon Musk) away from in all in a log…
Turn your downtime into a vacation
Vacation is a state of mind It doesn't matter whether you have a month, a fortnight or a long weekend. Vacation is a state of mind. That's why, so often, you come back from what should have been a wonderful…
How To End A Toxic Friendship
It's takes real courage and strength to end a friendship which no longer serves you. Between the memories of your past together and fears of a future without this person in your life, it can feel so hard to have…
When it is time to end or redefine a friendship?
It's easy to intellectualize why a friendship might have passed it's sell by date, but when it comes to why you feel you no longer want somebody in your life, it's less about logic and more about a feeling. For…
Want More Free Time For Yourself and Those You Love?
If, like many people, you feel you lack the time to spend with people you love, or projects which bring you peace or joy, the problem could be with how you have come to value free time. Of course, if…
It’s Hard Enough Keeping Romance And Intimacy Alive – Without Trying To Be Colleagues Or Best Friends
I once made the mistake of thinking I could be everything to my partner and that he could be everything to me. I believed we could be colleagues, best friends, parents, children, carers, coaches, gym buddies - oh, yes, and…
Why Listening Through Filters Stops Us Hearing Each Other Or Being Heard
If other people can't hear you. or misunderstand what you're saying, it's because they're listening through the powerful filters of their own needs. We all listen through filters. We don't know we're doing it, but we hear one another through…
No One Needs To Have Died For You To Feel Sad and Depressed. You Could Be Grieving World Events.
I noticed that some of my coaching clients were showing signs of grieving. I first certified as a grief counselor, so the symptoms were clear. Some clients seemed unusually sad, permanently resigned and depleted, others were demonstrating anger or unusual…
It’s Good To Want More Of Yourself – Just Don’t Compete With Others
What is ambition, if not the drive to achieve? My British clients often judge naked ambition negatively. It's fine to reach the top of the social or professional ladder in the UK, just so long as no one sees you…
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