Blog and Podcasts
How To End A Toxic Friendship
It's takes real courage and strength to end a friendship which no longer serves you. Between the memories of your past together and fears of a future without this person in your life, it can feel so hard to have…
When it is time to end or redefine a friendship?
It's easy to intellectualize why a friendship might have passed it's sell by date, but when it comes to why you feel you no longer want somebody in your life, it's less about logic and more about a feeling. For…
Want More Free Time For Yourself and Those You Love?
If, like many people, you feel you lack the time to spend with people you love, or projects which bring you peace or joy, the problem could be with how you have come to value free time. Of course, if…
It’s Hard Enough Keeping Romance And Intimacy Alive – Without Trying To Be Colleagues Or Best Friends
I once made the mistake of thinking I could be everything to my partner and that he could be everything to me. I believed we could be colleagues, best friends, parents, children, carers, coaches, gym buddies - oh, yes, and…
Why Listening Through Filters Stops Us Hearing Each Other Or Being Heard
If other people can't hear you. or misunderstand what you're saying, it's because they're listening through the powerful filters of their own needs. We all listen through filters. We don't know we're doing it, but we hear one another through…
No One Needs To Have Died For You To Feel Sad and Depressed. You Could Be Grieving World Events.
I noticed that some of my coaching clients were showing signs of grieving. I first certified as a grief counselor, so the symptoms were clear. Some clients seemed unusually sad, permanently resigned and depleted, others were demonstrating anger or unusual…
It’s Good To Want More Of Yourself – Just Don’t Compete With Others
What is ambition, if not the drive to achieve? My British clients often judge naked ambition negatively. It's fine to reach the top of the social or professional ladder in the UK, just so long as no one sees you…
How To Give and Receive Feedback
When we are given feedback that conflicts with our self-image, our instinct is to change the information rather than ourselves. There's been a lot published on how leaders should give feedback, but the real art is in receiving it. I…
Think Forward to Thrive
Being excited about future rewards is a fundamental human desire, says empowerment coach Remy Blumenfeld You already know how having fun things to look forward later in the day, or on the weekend can help make a sad or boring…
Why Being Super Rich Will Not Make Your Super Happy
Who'd Be A Billionaire? SKY I don't know anyone who hasn't fantasised about winning the lottery or making millions while they were sleeping, but as someone who has forensically studied the lifestyles of billionaires, you can take it from me…
Picking Your Crew – Wizard of Oz Style
Get Bill Gates and Angelina Jolie Working For You GETTY Remember how in The Wizard Of Oz, the Scarecrow wishes he had brains, the tin man longs for a heart, and the cowardly lion seeks courage? On their long journey…
3 New Ways To Play The Game Of Life
A big part of my job as a coach is supporting clients to play the game of life with a sense of purpose, grace, and ease. Seeing life as a game isn't always easy. However, in an age when robots…
5 Ways To Achieve Success In 2019
'Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right.'Henry Ford January is a great time to focus on what you want for the year ahead. I'm not talking about New Years' resolutions. Instead of focusing on what…
All You Need For Christmas Is The Right Love Language
If you don't feel supported or understood over the holidays, it could be down to a relatively simple and common problem: You and your significant other may be communicating love and devotion in ways the other person simply doesn't understand as…
How To Transform Your Relationships By Getting Creative
Are you a victim, a persecutor, or a rescuer? If you're human, chances are there will be different situations where you may view yourself (or be seen by others) as all three. As a coach, it's hard to know which…